I had a trainer once tell me it was not their job to chase me down. I was kinda taken back by that remark. I mean, wasn’t that what I was paying them for? Weren’t they suppose to make sure that I was on track and doing what I was supposed to do to get healthy? I mean, if I could do it myself, I wouldn’t be in the shape I am in nor would I be wasting my money paying them.
Okay, so maybe they were right…to an extent. They couldn’t forge my “Why.” They couldn’t make me show up and give 100%. They couldn’t monitor me 24/7. I was the only one who could do that. I was the only one who could decide just how badly I wanted this. But still, sometimes you are so deep in the mud, so overwhelmed…that you really do need someone to just come and pull you through until you get your footing.
Have you ever decided to join a gym and then for weeks you make excuses for not going. Once you finally start going, and going consistently, you wonder what held you back for so long. You see how great you feel after each and every work out. And then you start to see results when you look in the mirror. Now imagine how much quicker you would of seen those results if you wouldn’t of allowed your fears and excuses to guide you. If you would of just had someone who would have drag you kicking and screaming to the gym. Because let’s be honest some times that’s exactly what we need. We need that person to check in on us and make sure that we are on task. We need someone for a sounding board. Someone who will help us turn our negative feelings of despair and defeat into positive ones. Someone who will help us muddle through nutrition plans or help us figure out just what a “healthy snack” is.
If you are like me, you have spent years getting it wrong, so it’s okay to ask for help so that this time, you can get it right. You just have to be brave enough to ask and put yourself out there.
Once I was really ready to ask for help I reached out to:
Friends and Family
There is no one better to ask for help. First off, they know you well enough that you can’t fool them. They will know when you are not being honest, even when you don’t, and won’t be afraid to call bullshit.
I was really struggling with sodas. I could push through when I was away from home, but as soon as I got home and could easily grab a coke from the fridge, I would give in to my temptations. I could of thrown them all away, but I hated to ask others to give them up just because I was weak. So instead, I ask them to hide them. Out of sight, out of mind. Once I got through the first couple of weeks, I was no longer tempted even when one was right in front of me. I just needed that little help to get over the first hurdle. So don’t be afraid to ask them to hide sodas, cookies, etc. from you while you are finding your way. Having trouble getting up early to work out? Ask them to call you in the morning and wake you up or to see if you worked out.
Do you have a friend or family who has gone through the same thing? Ask them for recipes, what work outs worked best, etc. Just remember, you ARE NOT your friend. What worked for them might not work for you but it will give you a great place to start.
Find an online challenge to participate in. There are lots of free ones out there. This is a great way to connect with others going through the same thing. They also usually offer great tips, whether it is on nutrition or fitness. Currently I am participating in the 6-Week Challenge by Strong Confident Living and it has been so instrumental in pushing me through.
Right now I have a couple of Accountability Buddies for the challenge and this really has helped me. Checking in with them to see how they are doing motivates me. Plus, it makes me feel like I am part of a team and I can’t let my team members down.
Online Support Groups
This is a great place to go to find others who are going through what you are and more than willing to chime in with what works for them. I can’t tell you how many times I have asked for lunch or snack suggestions. It gives me healthy alternatives I would of otherwise not thought of and helps me from getting bored.
Some of my favorite groups are: AbbieQ, SF4W, Strong. Confident. Living., Eat Clean. Live Well. Be Awesome. Together!, The Worldwide Workout
Make sure to reach out to friends and family for other suggestions.
Remember, you are not alone. I have to remind myself of that every day. That others have walked this same journey. That we all have our demons to battle, but that we never have to go in to battle alone. And this is not a battle I can win alone. I am blessed to have friends and family in my corner, cheering me on. You can too….you just have to reach out a hand and ask for help!